Hindsight Is 20/20

Jackie called me. First time we’ve talked since her wedding. She had a great time in Yellowstone and the Grand Tetons. I was happy about that. I asked her if she took any pictures. She laughed and said, “Yes, Mother, I took pictures! Not as many as you would have taken, but I did take pictures.”  I don’t know what she’s talking about, but anyway….

I asked her if I could have some pictures and she goes, “Of what?” I said I wanted them of her trip to the mountains. I suggested she post them on Facebook and then I could download what I wanted. She said, “OK, I’ll post pictures from Yellowstone, but I’m not posting any of my wedding shots.” My heart immediately sank. I assured her she didn’t have to post any, but I’d still like some from her wedding. I went with her and her photographer so that I could get some of the pictures they took with just Jackie and her husband, but I didn’t spend the whole time with them. Jackie said, “Well, they just are, um, they don’t, well…she just have a different style of taking pictures than you do.” I wanted to cry hearing the disappointment in Jackie’s voice at the way her wedding photos turned out. The photographer was a last minute find that Jackie’s new sister in law found. There was a brief moment in time where Jackie had asked me to take her pictures. She did so hesitantly because she wanted me to be able to more a part of the photos than the photo shoot. She was relieved to have found a photographer so that I wouldn’t have to be bothered with it. Now. Her feelings are different and that makes me sad.

The moral of this story, for any of you out there who may be planning a wedding, is to not scimp on the photographer! You get one chance at wedding photos. You’d better make sure you’re going to be happy with the outcome. I’m crossing my fingers that Jackie is just being overly sensitive to seeing herself in photos rather than the pictures actually sucking!  Ugh.


4 thoughts on “Hindsight Is 20/20”

  1. When Mr Lala & I got married, we used the same photographer who did my cousin Tara’s wedding. He did such a fantastic job on hers, and I was really excited to have him do mine. I cannot even begin to express to you how disappointed I was in the way the photos came out. The difference between my cousin’s photos and mine was like night & day. You wouldn’t even think the same person took them. I really feel Jackie’s pain on this one. When we renew our vows next year, my dear friend Jenny is going to take the pictures. Her work is amazing, and I’m going to make up for crappy photos the first time around by having good old Hodgie take awesome pictures. Maybe Jackie can do that, too!

  2. My first wedding I didn’t have really any pictures. My second wedding my husband’s friend was just kind of starting up with the photography thing. She was kind of where I am right now. So we had pretty decent pictures, but not professional level photos. I’m wondering if that indicates an average: 50% of weddings have decent photos. 🙂

  3. Ugh, that’s not good. Photography is the one thing we made SURE to not skimp on. I wanted GREAT photos and i wanted the rights to it all – and it was worth every penny!!! Sorry to hear about Jackie’s pics. 😦

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